Points (Mentees)

"Never, never rest contented with any circle of ideas, but always be certain that a wider one is still possible." ~ Pearl Bailey

Criteria to Becoming a Point

  • Be a Delaware high school girl (13-19yrs old)
  • Live in a Delaware Girls Circle service area or be willing to commute to the nearest DGC
  • Be referred by a high school guidance counselor or guardian or responsible adult
  • Be willing to follow established guidelines for rolling in a DGC
  • Be willing to establish a relationship where you learn, engage, grow and spiral up and out along with your Tangent
  • Be consistent in attendance at your DGC meeting and with your Tangent ILOLA sessions.
  • Take an active interest in the Delaware Girls Circle and have a desire to achieve higher education
  • Agree to a one year commitment to the DGC
  • Agree to regularly attend DGC meetings
  • Commit to spending a minimum of 3 hours per month with your Tangent for at least one year
  • Complete all screening procedures
  • Obtain guardian consent for participation in DGC
  • Be willing and able to communicate regularly with DGC program staff

To be a great Point you will want to be coachable, teachable and trainable. We believe that if you have these essential qualities, DGC and ILOLA can teach you to be valuable and unstoppable. Read the article below and if this sounds like you, and you are willing to adhere to the DGC policy, we are here to facilitate your positive spiral up to the winner’s circle of the graduated stars and to great successes beyond!

The Key Traits of A Great Point - Coachable, Teachable, Trainable

“What I have learned in my pursuit of achieving any goal in life is that you have to prove yourself to others by being coachable, teachable and trainable. It’s only when you are that, people who have what you need, or know what you don’t, are willing to help you.

While continuous learning is a basic necessity to professional improvement, being coachable, teachable and trainable requires subtle but different kinds of learning abilities from you.”

Excerpt written by John C. Maxwell

Are you coachable?

Someone who is coachable is:

  • Approachable
  • Attentive
  • Available
  • Receptive
  • Curious
  • Trusting
  • Shapeable

It means you listen with the intent to learn rather than to show what you know.

To be coachable means to lack arrogance and defensiveness and you check your pride and ego at the door. It means you don’t judge your coaches approach but try and adapt to it. When you allow someone to coach you, you allow that person to contribute to the situation, problem or decisions you need to face. It means you allow their point of view to shape the choices you make and actions you take.

Is there anything more frustrating than a know-it-all you have offered to share your expertise with and coach?

The best professionals at all levels require coaching to improve and they know it.

Are you teachable?

Jazz trumpeter and bandleader Louis Armstrong once said, “There are some people that if they don’t know, you can’t teach them.” Some people want to be right, even when they aren’t. And as a result, life is difficult for them. They never find the pathway of learning nor do they learn the lessons life offers to those with a teachable spirit.

Being teachable is a choice. We choose whether we are open or closed to new ideas, new experiences, others’ ideas, people’s feedback, and willingness to change. The key to teachability is not just that we try ideas on for size, but that we actually learn from others and change our point of view, process, and future decision making based on “the what” we have learned.

Traits of a Teachable Person

1. Teachable People Have an Attitude Conducive to Learning

People with a teachable spirit approach each day as an opportunity for another learning experience. Their hearts are open. Their minds are alert for something new. Their attitudes are expectant. They know that success has less to do with possessing natural talent and more to do with choosing to learn.

2. Teachable People Possess a Beginner Mind-set

When people are actually beginners, they find it easy to have a beginner’s mind-set. And yet, the more success you have, the harder it is to maintain because you are much more likely to think you know the answer and have less to learn. Regardless, it is important to maintain a “beginners” mindset because “your” thinking preferences limit the way you think. Try to maintain a beginner’s mind-set by keeping the following three things in mind:

1. Everyone has something to teach me.
2. Every day I have something to learn.
3. Every time I learn something, I benefit.
3. Teachable People Take Long, Hard Looks in the Mirror

Becoming and remaining teachable requires people to honestly and openly evaluate themselves on a continual basis. Any time you face a challenge, loss, or problem, one of the first things you need to ask yourself is, “Am I the cause?” If the answer is yes, then you need to be ready to make changes. Recognizing your own part in your failings, no matter how painful, and working hard to correct your mistakes, leads to the ability to change, grow, and move forward in life.

4. Teachable People Encourage Others to Speak to Them About Their Lives

Teachable people surround themselves with people who know them well and who will lovingly, yet honestly, speak to them about their life. For many reasons this can be a big challenge. First, you must be willing to develop strong enough relationships with people that you can ask them for feedback. Second, they must be courageous and honest enough to speak freely to you. And third, you must be willing to accept their feedback and criticism without defending yourself. Otherwise, you’ll only receive it once, and that defeats the purpose.

5. Teachable People Learn Something New Every Day

The secret to any person’s success can be found in his or her daily agenda. People grow and improve, not by huge leaps and bounds, but by small, incremental changes. Teachable people try to leverage this truth by learning something new every day. A single day is enough to make us a little larger or a little smaller. Several single days strung together will make us a lot larger or a lot smaller. If we do that every day, day upon day, there is great power for change.

Futuristic author and speaker John Naisbitt said, “No one subject or set of subjects will serve you for a foreseeable future, let alone the rest of your life.” In other words, even if you do know something well, it won’t do everything for you. Living to your potential requires you to keep learning and expanding yourself. For that, you must have a teachable spirit. If you don’t, you will come to the end of your potential long before you come to the end of your life.

Are you trainable?

To quote the Greek philosopher Aristotle, “Excellence is an art won by training and habituation […] Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”

As such, it is important to view yourself as a perpetual trainee (Point) so as to never allow yourself to become complacent and sedentary.

Seeking to build your skills through training is vital for a multitude of reasons. The first and foremost advantage is that it ensures that you are constantly growing your skillsets which will add value to not only to the individual, but also to any business you start or work for.

Training serves to improve your overall performance both in life and at work as it builds confidence and allows you to assess where and how you can improve. It also gives you something to measure against that building a skill provides. When you learn a new skill it is easy to measure your progress and abilities and anytime you can measure or assess objectively it helps us grow and learn.

Actively seeking out training will allow you to build your skills and productivity, which will allow you more time to focus on other priorities because what once was a daunting task to do, now is easy for you because you learned how to do it.